Be Nice

I have disengaged somewhat from politics since the end of the election season because I was both burned out and just wanted to sit back and see what happened post-election. As predicted, the GOP, particularly the far right, has collectively lost its shit and *gone rogue* in the most hilarious, yet frightening, way possible. This makes me sad, because, while I love schadenfreude with my all of heart and soul, I also love intelligent discourse, and that seems to have gone out the window. This is what happens when people’s entire rhetorical strategy is to talk the loudest. I can imagine how frustrating it might be to be a conservative who actually wants to talk about policy and issues, not hyperbole and misconceptions.

This tea party-led shit, which I had drowned out for a while because my brain was plenty full of crazy on its own and I didn’t need anything else depressing me even more, resurfaced in my frame of consciousness because of the lovely billboard erected in our fair state.

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I have no problem with step #2.  Step #1 and Step #3? Let’s discuss.

Well, I’m not even going to discuss Step #3, because declaring war on that *oppressive* regime that wants better health care for its citizens makes me think people haven’t done their homework regarding revolutions or oppression. If your idea of revolution moves us any closer to The Handmaid’s Tale, I’ll gladly jump ship to Panama and y’all can have the country. If this is your idea of oppression, you might want to read about, oh, any part of the African continent under colonialism, for starters, before you start crowing about your certain impending loss of liberty.

If I wanted to go insane and at the same time, send more traffic their way, I’d link to a post by a certain local tea party group, who encouraged its readers to not spend any money this holiday season, including donations to charities. They want to show the impact of their dollars by keeping all of their monies for themselves. Because if the teaparty quits throwing their money around, the economy will go ahead an collapse, thus proving that Obama is just like Hitler or something. Then, if that plan doesn’t work, they want a revolution.

So, you want to destroy the leftists by opting out of capitalism? Okay. Go with that.

I hate the commercialism of Christmas. I hate it like I hate bunnies. I hate that I dread going to any retail establishment between Thanksgiving and Christmas because the level of insanity makes me have a panic attack. I’ve been celebrating Buy Nothing day for years. So I’m with you on that. But to opt out of non-political charitable donations on political principle seems to be more of a misguided pissing contest than sound political strategery. To deny help to those who need it most, in a year when they need it most, during the time of year when they need it most, simply to prove a political point (that will, honestly, probably not be proven or noticed), that’s just…well, I guess those who would buy into that should probably ask themselves why they give to charity in the first place.

In response to this, Chris and I are going to give more this season, even though we’re not in a great financial place right now. I encourage you to do the same, no matter how much or little you have to give. It doesn’t even have to be money, it can be your time.

Beyond that, I challenge all of you to critically examine not only our own actions, but our responses to directives such as this. I’ve decided that what’s missing in much of this political dogfight we’ve seen in the past two years is love.

Fuck yes, the hippie liberal do-gooder just dropped some Yoko Ono touchy-feelie LOVE on your ass. Typical.

I’m serious, though. I’m not naive enough to think that we can love all our differences and problems away, but we sure could use more of it during uncertain times. By “love”, I really mean “treating others like HUMAN BEINGS”. Like being nice to harried cashiers this season. By helping people with their bags. By letting someone merge on the interstate even if it’s not their turn. By exercising (and trust me, it is exercise for me) patience and freely giving kindness with everyone we encounter, even if they are wrong, or dumbasses, or something is unfair. By getting someone coffee for no reason (preferably me, this morning) or running errands for people without expecting anything in return. By seeking the best in and assuming the best from everyone around us. By loving and giving without conditions and certainly without any sort of paternalistic motivations. If we respond to hatred and anger with more hatred and anger, we’ll keep getting where we’ve always gotten: nowhere.  Somewhere in our desperate clinging to “rugged individualism” and the struggle just to get our own piece of the American dream (snort), we forgot that it is okay to give and love freely and genuinely. So, um, can we get on that?  Please.

<kumbayah, m’lord, kumbayah>


This article has 7 comments so far!

  1. Jaelithe says —

    A++ I approve this post.

  2. kimblahg says —

    Where is that billboard? I agree with you on holiday consumerism. I dread entering stores this time of year. I’m going to do most of my shopping online.

  3. Dan D. says —

    Shoot, I was expecting this to be about Dalton’s speech from Roadhouse.

    Nice post.

  4. Andrea (@shutterbitch) says —

    With ya 100%. I try to be nice to people this time of year anyway especially because of The Suck of Consumerism at Christmas. No one wants to be out in the mess, but we all feel we HAVE to.

    Well, I guess maybe there is that weird Martha Stewarty type who actually ENJOYS the shopping, but I don’t know her.

    As for the charity thing, that is really douchey to deprive people of help they need and rely on this time of year because of political beliefs that have nothing to do with the charity donations. Really, dick move there. I will do what I can to increase my donations, but I already try to do the max I can anyway, so I don’t know that there will be an appreciable difference. But I think it’s a great idea.

    You broke out the Yoko. You’re funny.

  5. Shannon says —

    did you mean uman beings or omosapians?

  6. Nathan says —

    Awesome post, the insanity of the whole tea party movement has me completely befuddled. I read this post, http://stlouispushesback.blogspot.com/2009/11/st-louis-tea-party-lineup-pretty-much.html about the speakers they have lined up for an upcoming rally, and I can’t believe it’s real. I want to believe that I can put myself inside anyone else’s head and understand how they think, but these people are nuts.

    Um… I actually do kind of enjoy the hustle and bustle of shopping around Christmas though. It’s like this great big collective experience that makes me feel are warm and fuzzy inside. I’m weird.

  7. Mac says —

    Buy Nothing Day, I like that a lot.

    And man, that Bill Hennessey is a Tool!

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